Should you share your goal ideas?

Let’s think on this a sec, before I share with you question number five.

So there you are, with a goal in mind, maybe something innovative or unique, maybe something a bit wild. Maybe something really boring. Everyone is different. You don’t mind thinking about it throughout the day, but the thought of sharing it fills you with horror or embarrassment.

After all, people will judge you, right?

Well, sort of.

I mean, let’s face it. People who criticise you for focusing on a goal are either concerned that what you are doing is wrong in some way, or they are lacking in their own confidence to change something and they project that discomfort on to you. ‘Be careful, it is risky…’ etc etc.

People who are really satisfied and content with their own lives generally pause to praise others, and only criticise when they have a genuine concern.

The key is, whatever it is you do, you should share it as long as you commit to following it through to the end. Nothing you do will ever be perfect for everyone. It will never meet everyone’s needs and quality control. But let nobody doubt that you will finish something when you say you will because this behaviour alone will start to build trust. This quality opens up opportunities that would otherwise remain closed.

Trust is something that cannot be bought or sought quickly. It is only earned by putting the work in and showing up. Even when showing up is really tough.

Also, with any goal you undertake, there will be days when you actually find it off-putting, demotivating, or boring. Pushing through these tough spots by keeping going is an essential part of the journey, but the one where most people give up or decide that the goal is not worth the effort. This gives you short term relief, long term regret.

So the fifth question is:

Are you showing up?

If you’re not, this means that nobody knows what you’re doing, and even worse, nobody is expecting you to show up. The key to starting to show up is to simply share what you’re doing, regardless of what people might think.

Lastly, it is worth clarifying that it is an action. You can spend years thinking about something and how doing it would change your life and help others and so on. But showing up requires you to actually do something. To act. At first, it may well feel like an act, an impersonation, overcoming imposter syndrome or whatever. But then eventually, as you build up confidence and trust in yourself, so others will also build up confidence and trust in you. That’s what you get from consistently showing up. Until you finish your goal.

Stay tuned for the final part in my series, coming in mid December…